Today’s Scripture: But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife… but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. 1¬†Corinthians¬†7:33,¬†34b

Why is the divorce rate so high? All too often it is because the foundation of the marriage is selfishness. Each individual is only concerned with how they are treated, their needs, and what will make them happy. There is no thought for the needs, wants, or happiness of the other individual. Because the foundation is built solely upon themselves, when one of the individuals is not satisfied with what they are getting out of the relationship, they feel there is nothing keeping them in it. Vows are tossed aside as unimportant, and they try to find someone else who will make them happy.

Christians, this ought not to be the case in our lives. Marriage is not a device to be sought after to make us happy – it is to help us serve God more effectively. It is to be a picture of God’s love for His church. In Ephesians, husbands are commanded to “love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it,” and wives are commanded, “submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” He gave His life for the church, and we are to submit to Him. A marriage relationship is supposed to illustrate God’s love for us.

Instead, too many marriages illustrate the wickedness of man. Selfishness, infidelity, fighting, and abuse are rampant in our marriages today. So many people are concerned only for themselves and their own happiness, that marriage is only a means to an end. If it doesn’t work, they try to find happiness somewhere else.

There will be struggles in your marriage – your spouse isn’t perfect and neither are you. But when you truly care about the other person, you will show them the love and respect they deserve. When you care about the things that will make your spouse happy, conflict will be resolved easier, but when you only think about yourself, your marriage will suffer.

Your spouse is a gift from God. Show him or her how much you care about them. Plan a special night, buy something that will make them smile, and spend some time together. Show God’s love today through your love for each other.

Devotional by Pastor Jim Scudder, Jr.